Originally Posted by August252015

Y'all need to talk about it.

My husband and I are both in recovery. I have 3.5 mo more and we quit drinking before we started dating.

My recovery is completely independent of his. His, of mine. We work together but i have to be sober for me- and before anything else, including him.

You've come here and been asking about your own drinking, which is the right start! She's new to sobriety too - like others said, whatever the details, being honest is the best and quite possibly only way long term, that y'all have a respective and collective chance to live sober and well.