Regarding AA, I wonder if you have tried inviting God/The Cosmic Intelligence/The Great Spirit/The Original Mind/The Divine Sophia (or however you might conceive the Higher Power) to be involved and to help you with this problem, and if you have tried to maintain an ongoing relationship with that Power somehow.
That seems to be the key ingredient of AA's suggested program, although the fellowship, other steps, and other aspects of AA culture can help as well.
Just presenting that as something to consider, and no reply expected if you would rather not.
Anyway, best wishes and hoping you have a long, healthy, and happy life!
