Originally Posted by
AnvilheadII 
Even after many years, the hope that he will somehow turn back into a normal person is flickering faintly.
and i think you do so thru the filter of a person who co-parents with this person, not as a love interest.
Yes, absolutely. "Love interest" left the building many years ago. What I hope for is to have a sane and reasonable co-parent, even though I know that is unlikely to happen.