I've stayed on the lighter side of this until now. My mother was a recovering alcoholic of 30 years at the time of her death, 20+ she was a addiction counselor and a very good one at that. Well known in her field for being tough and caring but the thing that made her good was she fought the fight with her clients, they new the same demon. So I don't know if your looking for someone to blame like your wife has, but she is an alcoholic and everything that goes with it.
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