To steal a couple of the lines from Needabreak's excellent post:
My life feels like a damn escape room, and the clock is running…..
You know they leave the keys to the doors in the room, so you can leave at anytime.
Acceptance my counselor said, this is my life right now. Accept it, be patient and let the anger go. If only I knew how to do that consistently…….
Practice, that's how you get consistency. This is how it is, what happened - happened. What is happening now with your wife is happening and there is nothing you can do to change any of that, not one thing.
Your only question is how do you deal with it? If you want to take the facility to court you should consult with a lawyer if you think they were at fault. That's a concrete action.
If you believe you want to continue this relationship with your wife then you might want to take a big, big step back and change your focus here. What are you bringing to the table?
If you can't view her with goodwill, what possible good is this doing you or her? I'm not saying you never will, perhaps this is something you are working on.
Have things settled at all, what is your day to day like?