I am sorry for what brings you here, but glad you sought help for yourself and had the courage to reach out. Continue to read all you can. I learn so much just from lurking on these forums even if it takes a long time to really sink in. Just knowing at this moment you are not alone helps.
Alanon is also a wonderful resource and something I have found to be invaluable are the bridge phone meetings. There are multiple meetings a day and even if for various reasons you are unable to commit to a face to face just listening to others and possibly sharing is empowering: https://al-anon.org/al-anon-meetings/electronic-meetings/