Just as an addendum, I have two great friends I've known for over thirty years.
One is an alcoholic and one drinks.
They are still my best friends and I've been sober over ten years.
When my alcoholic friend comes over, I buy him beer to drink here.
The other friend drinks wine in front of me.
They've never asked me why I quit drinking. Thy are true friends in the best sense of the word and we would do, and have done, anything for each other.
But I wasn't around them in early sobriety. We lived in different cities.
Since I never had a family, their friendship with me has endured through thick and thin.
We know each other, We trust each other. We love each other.
They are relationships, to me, that go beyond alcoholism.