You have the right attitude toward seeing it as a very good thing that you are embarking on sobriety at a time when your family needs you more than ever. Anything can come along like it has for your wife that throws a big challenge in front of us. I don't see it as a test, just a fact. Keep it in mind that you can do a lot to support yourself and your whole family by staying the course, it's all that matters and will be appreciated wholesale.