That's a great attitude and you will get through this.
I had one of the worst experiences of my life in my early recovery. My then 19-year old daughter learned she had a stalker, a stranger, who had been following her for most of a year. He confronted her, threatened her life, then continued to pop up for several more months. The police were useless. Like you, I wondered why this was happening to us, but quickly came to realize that, if I could get through this sober, I could get through anything. It ended up giving me a lot of confidence in my recovery.