He spoke to my husband tonight. Said he would possibly go back to inpatient but then changed his mind because it looks like he was a failure. Refuses to do sober living. I listened in on the conversation... same angry attitude of doing what he wants. Same whining that he won't have enough money for his rent... same whining that he isn't going to break his lease, etc. He doesn't want to lose his position at work, etc. Said he is so mad at himself for always screwing up every 2 to 3 months. Angry at himself. he is the one who stops going to meetings, stops working the program, etc. He makes those choices. We live 1700 miles apart and I cringe at the thought if he ever asked to move home. He said he had a plan the other night when he took pills and drank whiskey but that failed - he woke up.