Alcoholism is a progressive disease. If you cannot stop and stay stopped on your own, chances are you are an alcoholic. The fact that you can point to some features of your life that make you seem "not alcoholic" is immaterial - alcoholism isn't the inability to hold a job, stay out of jail / hospital, etc - it's the inability to drink normally.
The fact that you were willing to go to an AA meeting is significant in my opinion. Nobody goes there for the great coffee or prestige... they go because they haven't found a way to control their drinking. If you are an alcoholic and continue to drink, the consequences of your drinking will get worse. That is the nature of the beast.
So - the real question is: can you control your drinking?