Addiction makes us extremely selfish. We think the world revolves round us and what we think we want should be everyone else’s priority. We fail to see that others have bigger problems of their own to deal with and we tend to want to turn everything into being about us with no consideration for others. She is in ill health and I doubt your problems are her priority right now.
Until you have some space between you and your addiction you either need to let it go or steer well clear until you have at least 30 consecutive sober days under your belt.