I hear ya, Hopeful! I remember when someone I had just met put two and two together and realized who my ex-husband was. "Oh, he's your ex-husband? Oh, well he's a real stand-up guy!" And I mean, I guess he is, aside from the child molestation, exposing his kids to drugs, horribly neglecting them, surrounding them with criminals, theft. Stand-up guy. Yeah. I would have loved to have corrected her in that moment, but I've learned that people really want to believe his facade, and telling them the truth only makes me look like a liar. So I just smiled and said, "Yes, EX-husband." At least the "ex" part gave me a little peace.