Hi Wombaticus. I went to my first Alanon meeting this week as well. My story was very similar - I cried (first time), felt very welcome, understood and NORMAL. I was also resentful that I had to be there but........”one day at a time” and that was the topic for the evening. Thank you to everyone here at SR for the posts that encouraged me to attend. I am planning to go again this Thursday. I am also getting some info for my two oldest children to attend an Alateen meeting (they are almost 12 and 13). I will not allow this disease to isolate us, make us feel shame or secretive anymore.