Thank you trailmix, your posts always make so much sense and it really helps to see that list, you are completely right, not a thing has changed. If anything it has got worse for him, in that he is completely off the wagon now. I think he has manipulated me yet again, he knew I would respond about sexual abuse.
He text and text tonight, I ignored and ignored until I got one asking if I am going to talk to him. I replied stating that I wasn't his counsellor, that I had already spoken to him today and taken the time to send him information for rehab, that I did that for our son, not for him, that we are separated and I will not have him and his addiction taking over my life again. He has stopped now but his actions have yet again shown me how selfish he is, expecting me to be at his beck and call, when he wants to talk, whilst I have four kids to look after, one to grow and myself to take care of.