Hi Purplethistles,
Anger doesn't help you, baby or husband. It's a very normal emotion that needs other outlets and solutions. Al-anon is often referred to as "the better parent club". This family disease of alcoholism effects all of us around it. We didn't choose it, yet there it is.
The self-assessment tests on the Al-anon website are beneficial.
https://al-anon.org/newcomers/self-quiz/
The first question is enough for me:
1. Do you worry about how much someone drinks?
Yes. I do.
Here's a link of hope from the AA side:
https://www.soberrecovery.com/forums...r-give-up.html (Never give up) 