Originally Posted by
hearthealth 
Big fight. I asked him to leave the house. His response"To where? What does that mean."
HH now might be the time to have that serious talk. He asked you straight out. He must know it isn't working too and maybe even he wants to move on.
I'm not clear whether you're afraid to be clear with him because it might provoke an abusive or dangerous response. You yourself seems to have overcome your resistance to separation or divorce.