Sunny....I wish I could help, but my way of dealing with all of this is very different.
However....I do not think taking away nuts and dairy is a good idea. I am hoping this group can help you....really....do you think that even though they are not warm and fuzzy it might be worth trying it their way for a bit? Their way is the AA program....almost the same anyway, and it works. And then there is the saying: take what you need and leave the rest.
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