But I know this is not going to end well if she doesn’t snap out of this immediately.
Here’s the thing, alcoholism is lifelong not just something you snap out of. If she finds sobriety she will have to work on keeping that sobriety each and every day for the rest of her life.
She has apologized profusely, said nothing happened, just talk, has stopped talking to these fan boys, and the married man she was flirting/planning with, and is asking to go to detox...again. I’m so reluctant to throw any more money at this
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The first causality of addiction is the truth………..trust your instincts because they will never fail you. If it doesn’t feel right, it's not.
Is her interest in detox because you threatened divorce?
If you want to know if an addict is real about something tell them no and stick to it then see what direction they go in. Anyone serious about changing their lives will do so all by themselves despite what the outcome of a marriage, relationship, job etc. will be. And when they blame you for their need to drink or blame you for not supporting them, they are usually not serious about real recovery but trying to manipulate the situation.