Great post. Inspires me because it doesn't shy away from the fact that work needs to be done. And I'm beginning to see this properly myself. I can't do this alone, and that's okay.
Also I hope things improve for you elsewhere 'cause you've obviously earned it. I would say you're probably right to leave your former partner alone. But I know the feeling you describe and how hard that is. Love can be brutal. What else can be said?