P.s. lm concentrating on positive thoughts which help me, for example, my AH keeps the house clean and tidy (rather than trashing it) he pays the mortgage and shares costs of bills etc (rather than bankrupting us) he supports me if l have work problems (rather than not giving a toss) looks after me whenever lm ill (rather than leaving me to my own devices). Yes he drinks...how much l dont know...and its not my business, its his...but there are worse men l could be married to...