Relapse is a very real part of it. For so many, they are being forced into recovery so they have no motivation not to relapse b/c they don't want it for themselves. I remember my XAH telling me that when he was in rehab for 30 days all people seemed to talk about was immediately using as soon as they got out.
Bribes are not a part of recovery. It will only make you feel resentful and establish unrealistic expectations. He has to do this, and only he can do it.
Big hugs!
Originally Posted by
hummingbird358 
My AC was confused on when the rent was due. Thought it was next week before his payday. It is the following week so it seems like he is accepting the responsibility of paying.
Got a text today that one of the house guys got kicked out due to relapsing. I didn't know what to say to that just that I was sorry to hear because I know he had made friends with him. I also said it was sad because unless he gets on track his future won't be good.
My son also met someone while in rehab back a few months ago. She relapsed numerous times already and went into seizures. Was back in rehab and came out and relapsed the same day. He sees how easy it is and he knows because he has been there as well.
Praying he is strong and has his mind set to move forward.
I know I shouldn't but part of me feels like maybe I should just put a little towards the rent as a reward for staying on track but then I feel no I shouldn't because he needs to want this himself and shouldn't need to be "rewarded". If he were to quit IOP then I definitely would not. Thought about using that as a bribe as well but I know it is wrong and it is putting me into a financial strain again.
Why do I always feel like I need to help him so he stays on track! UGH! It is wrong! I know that.