Hi Trailmix, l am under no illusions, he drinks every night. It was just last night that l probably applied he was hurting about his daughter. They were very close when she was young but as an adult she has clashed with him continually (and vice versa) l have known her since the age of 16 and l haven't seen anything positive that she brings to the table...its always been contact with problems. He sees this too and this is why he doesn't back down and contact her...he says he cannot face more of her problems, financial or otherwise.
Back to the drinking, l am detached from that but l still hug him and treat him normally day to day. As l said in one of my previous posts it is up to him how he spends the years he has remaining, (he is 66) he is entitled to do as HE wishes. If it gets to a point where my life is affected in a way l cannot deal with, l will have to reconsider my future. But for now, l am okay. And now is all any of us have x