Originally Posted by
hummingbird358 
I had attended Alanon for years on and off. I should start going again.
Found out through social media my son made an appointment for a tattoo again so yeh that made my decision for me. He is not spending money on booze/drugs but now spending on tattoos. Would rather the tattoos but only after his bills are paid
H, I've seen the tattoo thing happen with my own extended family too and it still amazes me! They are often struggling with debt, or with making day to day expenses, yet they seem to be able to afford these expensive tatts.
I can imagine if you'd decided to help him and then seen a fresh tattoo. Your relationship with him would have been more damaged, as tends to happen when money comes into the mix.