Originally Posted by
Mango212 
An alcoholic doesn't deny that they are drinking, they deny that it is hurting others.
Many will deny both. Alcoholism is a very illogical disease.
Kindness to self and others can look like different things, as we allow our own recovery to take priority.
I've seen friends and family of alcoholics blow off the alcoholics drinking. Some are/were hardcore drinkers themselves.
Sadly I know a couple of parents who drank freely in the presence of their children including afternoon cocktails. Those adult children either want as little to do with the parents or are alcoholics/addicts themselves.
I know one parent refuses to acknowledge their adult child's excessive drinking even when they show up in the am with alcohol breath. And berate those who don't drink or poo poo bars. Well I'm not the parent with kids who want nothing to do with me or one drink or dose away from killing themselves all year round.