Acceptance
I dont know if this will help any of you who are living with an alcoholic but this mind set has definitely helped me in accepting the situation.
I love my husband and want the best for him, but he is living the life HE wants to live right now, not the life I want him to live. When you see someone you care for doing things that are no good for them you want to step in and say 'dont' but what right do we have to do that? None. Its not our life..its theirs.
However, the effects of their choices have a domino effect on us if we allow it to. All circumstances are different, but the bare bones of acceptance is would WE want anyone telling us not to eat that bar of chocolate we fancy, or telling us not to listen to the music that soothes us, or not to watch our favourite tv show? I certainly wouldnt like it and would do as l pleased.
Our life is ours..their life is theirs...