Alcoholism is not a spectator sport, eventually the whole family gets to play.
An alcoholic doesn't deny that they are drinking, they deny that it is hurting others.
Yes, ugh, this.
Going through some nonsense with my middle A bro around the holidays, he really just has the delusion that he is an island and is not actively hurting people with his drunken behavior...completely deluded alcoholic insanity.
Sorry for the loss of your family member. And kudos on your own recovery, that is a gift to yourself and the world.
Peace,
B