Originally Posted by
MCESaint 
Of course, he is your EX.
My AW is NOT an "ex" ----- at least not yet.
Thus, the issue of how she "filters" or views my communications is an issue that has to be considered - especially as we have a minor child about whom we ought to be "co-parenting". And perhaps the "consideration" is, to separate as much as possible from her.
MCE Saint
Ok, let's dissect this.
Mr Saint, have you ever accused your wife of draining your family's finances with her drinking and/or smoking?
Have you ever presented her with a dollar amount cost of what her drinking/smoking and DWI have cost the family?
If you answer yes to either of these questions, then why wouldn't she go there in her head?
If you answered no, well it's her own guilt.
You don't get to choose how she perceives what you say. If you believe what you have said has been misinterpreted and you care enough to, then why not follow it up with an explanation?