Hi, Jk4. Welcome. Glad you found your way here.
Agree with what others have said about attending Al-Anon meetings.
It is a wonderful source of support and help.
Does your husband have a problem with alcohol.?
Sounds like it.
It also sounds like you are ready to take a step or two back from the situation.
This will take time and knowledge and support.
No one says Leave. Today. Only you can decide if that is the step you want to take.
But I can tell you that unless your spouse embraces sobriety long term, things are not going to get better.
They will get worse as you both get older.
Good luck and good thoughts.