searching......this is absolutely common and typical alcoholic behavior.....
You can't understand, because your are sober...and, his brain is reacting to the alcohol...the mood swings, the faulty memory, the lack if inhibitions..., etc....
I can relate to having a holiday spoiled by an alcoholic...nothing can ruin a holiday like a drunk...…
I could cry over those that I have had spoiled.....
Even if you are not ready to exercise any of your options, right now....you can start making baby steps for when you are ready or may be forced toward an option.....
Start dreaming...planning....building yourself up.....