I'm sorry you're going through this Jk4. It's a terrible dance, back and forth, having good days, knowing the not-so-good days will happen again. I was in pretty much your situation. Can you take a break and leave for awhile? Get some peace and clear your head? Do some self-care, like walking, something you enjoy or need to get done that will make you feel better? My AH also lost motivation in many ways, and is a very different person than who I married. The book Pathways to Recovery from Al Anon is helpful, and meetings are too.