Thank you Sharon, OK and Seren.
I've had many angels and advocates along the way. Everyone here, included.
Last week at a noon Al-anon meeting it was a different mix of people who hadn't been together before. Alll 8 of us were at different stages of dealing with narcissistic abusive behaviours. To listen, to put the tools of Al-anon to work and look towards solutions instead of staying in the problem, and to appreciate the many ways God/HP can be seen/heard/felt in this is transformative. Narcissistic abuse recovery isn't a typical thing that's talked about in meetings, yet when I need more awareness or clarity it always comes about in one way or another!
I've had one other experience like that about 18 months ago with a group of 5 people including me.