I can only answer from my own experience. I am an adult child of an alcoholic and I don't think I do this to my kids. If anything, I am the one always drawing a breath, letting things slide, rarely yelling, etc. Trying hard not to do all the things my parents did.
However, my mother and alcoholic father did it to me all the time. I was not allowed to be angry, hurt, or upset about anything, even now, with adult children of my own, this is still the attitude: that I have no right, ever, to have any emotional reaction to anything that is done or said to me.
And if I do, I'm told (as is everyone else who will listen, for the next 25 years) how it's all my fault anyway.