Originally Posted by
Awal 
Hi Surfbee, the way l see it is, two people who care for each other can each take care of their own 'side of the street' but still meet halfway and enjoy good times together. You are working hard at looking after yourself so don't beat yourself up for the occasional slip. As long as you are still getting positive things from the relationship it is worth the effort. X
Thank you Awal.... X !!
Originally Posted by
Awal To 'let go' does not mean to stop caring,
it means I can't do it for someone else.
To 'let go' is not to cut myself off,
it's the realization I can't control another.
To 'let go' is not to enable.
but to allow learning from natural consequences.
To 'let go' is to admit powerlessness,
which means the outcome is not in my hands.
To 'let go' is not to try to change or blame another,
It's to make the most of myself.
To 'let go' is not to 'care for',
but to 'care about'.
To 'let go' is not to fix,
but to be supportive.
To 'let go' is not to judge,
but to allow another to be a human being.
To 'let go' is not to be in the middle arranging all the outcomes,
but to allow others to affect their destinies.
To 'let go' is not to be protective,
it's to permit another to face reality.
To 'let go' is not to nag, scold, or argue,
but to search out my own shortcomings and correct them.
To 'let go' is not to adjust everything to my desires,
but to take each day as it comes, and cherish myself in it.
To 'let go' is not to criticize and regulate anybody,
but to try to become what I dream I can be.
To 'let go' is not to regret the past,
but to grow and live for the future.
To 'let go' is to fear less,
and to love more.
I love this.... thank you ! I feel this is the biggest lesson in loving someone with an addiction or any kind of mental health issue....or loving anyone for that matter.... is to learn the art of 'letting go'....
A beautiful and seemingly easy philosophy on paper but the crazy emotional hoops you have to jump through in order to understand for yourself is like experiencing a temporary 'hell on earth'.... when you're so wrapped up inside the actions of another...it's like being inside a prison that you've created....But now it's like this weight has been lifted.... because freedom is felt the moment you decide it.... "live and let live" as you so aptly put it Awal
! x
