Nothing , I can do or say that will Change the fact that alcoholics are SELFISH.
It’s all about ME!ME!ME!
I am sorry that you are hurt by your friend’s inability to reciprocate a basic human kindness.
What’s that sayin “ you can put lipstick on a pig, but it’s still a pig.” Bottom line , we can wish them to be healthy, kind, sensitive, loving, caring, thoughtful..... doesn’t mean It will ever happen...
Take care of yourself, and Happy Birthday.