There are certain things that we are expected to control in our lives, and that's called being responsible (accountable). I enjoy being able, now, to feel that I'm meeting my obligations with a sense of self-confidence that escaped me when I was personally out of control. I think it's fine to enjoy a sense of accomplishment in such things.
Some people try to exercise control over everything that surrounds them, and that becomes a problem for the individual and, often for others as well, when s/he is perceived as being out of the lane.
I think that feelings of control that can become a problem when expectations are out of bounds or when we approach perfectionism are, for me, mitigated by gratitude and, as you have noted, by being somewhat more humble about our station.