Just as with anything in life, when we get 'tired' of a certain situation WE must work to change that situation. Job sucks,look for a new job/skillset. Hate where you live?..Plan and work towards living some where we'd prefer. Relationship(alcohol is a relationship) not going as planned?..Plan and work towards changing that. It's all in the work and planning.
Edit: Sorry..Forgot the 2 main things that helped me; Personal ownership and follow through. Those are key!!