Thank you so much for your words, hopeful. That is why I love this forum so much. Y'all get it. Onward and upward.
Very thankful our holidays are no longer contingent on someone else's bad behavior. I was thinking about that yesterday, in the past, paying for this would have come out of our funds (read: mine) and the kids and I would have done with less this holiday season. Which makes me want to laugh/cringe at my younger self for putting up with that bs for as long as I did.