Hi Awal

in my personal experience my AH knows he has a problem. Others here may disagree with me, but pointing out bottle levels IMO is kind of demeaning and treating the other person like a child. It also took too much of my energy to track it and it was stressful. I take it now as not lying but in a certain way trying to keep the "habit" going but yo also in a way try to "please" me. I had to get over the deception aspect. That took some time for me, and the path I took isn't right for everyone. I guess in the end I think if you become a "mom" of sorts, then if you want to stay it's just not going to work. Everyone will be walking on eggshells all the time.