I get the tough talk aspect and nothing you have said is untrue.
She is attempting recovery, I know that you don't want to jeopardize that, providing all this negative feedback could be harmful right now.
She is not in your face, she is not around the children, it is time for her to be introspective for sure, but with support around her. Perhaps there is family counselling available?
Absolutely not saying that anything you have done or said is wrong, just that it can have the opposite effect of what you want right now, which is for your wife to be in recovery.