Originally Posted by
BriarSkye 
In my family when the addict/alcoholic says the words "I love you" expecting it in return, we are taken hostage. What it really means is that not only are we now obligated to give them more money but now we also have to accept their dysfunctional behavior including drugs and alcohol. This just blows my mind and I am done with it. I can't say I love you to them and don't want to. I feel guilt and anger.
I told my ABF that I hate him. I hate the person he is when he is drunk , I want nothing to do with that type of person , I don't want a future with that person. ****** thing is that is really who he is and when he is sober and "nice" that ******* drunk is dying to come out and party. I have felt guilty as hell for saying "I hate you " and I know it stabs him in the gut. But the truth is i honestly hate him when he is drunk. And living together under these circumstances is like being held hostage. Absolutely.