Originally Posted by
PeacefulWater12 
I am both an A and a codie. Took me years in my recovery programs to understand that is possible to be both.
I am coming to see that every A is a codie. Deep down, there's no other reason to be an A.
I also needed this thread today. Re-affirms for me how I willingly stay in a relationship in which I am not heard. AlAnon keeps showing me how everything is my choice.