In my family when the addict/alcoholic says the words "I love you" expecting it in return, we are taken hostage. What it really means is that not only are we now obligated to give them more money but now we also have to accept their dysfunctional behavior including drugs and alcohol. This just blows my mind and I am done with it. I can't say I love you to them and don't want to. I feel guilt and anger.