Originally Posted by
Glenjo99 
Yes I see what you mean. I'm wondering can one do both, love oneself or at least be in recovery and be back with someone who you love/have feelings for. Maybe I'm in denial again.
You can always love yourself.
This is my take on it.
First accept yourself, all the good all the not so good - physical and mental. You are who you are right now. Accept that.
Now we all have things we want to change, whether that's co-dependency or to stop biting our nails, lose 30 lbs or practice having more patience or being a better listener, whatever it is.
Just because you are not as you want to be, ideally, does not mean you need to dislike yourself or not love yourself. I hope that makes sense.