A quick update: Lunch was fine, and a good reminder that there but for the grace of god...
I miss him, but also the "him" I miss doesn't really exist anymore. And I know that nothing in my life that I love right now would be this good if he was my partner.
From experience, I can tell those of you that are worried that your ex will get it together as soon as you leave that they don't, they just find new enablers. He tells the same old yarns, but I have no investment anymore in whether he's telling me the truth or not. I know what the truth is.
It costs me nothing to be kind, so I will, but from a distance.