I spoke to him today... mainly for closure regarding our relationship. His issue was still that he was not a priority to me and mine was the verbal abuse. He apologized and when I said that I was struggling with it he said angrily that i should not hold him hostage to the words he did not mean. That was the end. I stupidly thought I could get him to see how wrong he was and then he would get help. I am not surprised. I feel sad for him. BTW I had no intention of taking him back today. one last effort to help him. I am seeing a therapist next week to help me move on emotionally from the disgusting words.