Originally Posted by
Ann 
Just a note...these meetings are about you, not him or his substance. They are about setting boudaries for ourselves, learning to let go of our obsession to control things that are not ours to control, learning to heal and find peace and to help us find the beauty in every single day. Things I learned at meetings serve me well in ALL areas of my life today and in all relationships.
*Said with love in my heart*....stop thinking and "maybe-ing" and start doing. It's action that will take you to a better place. Wishing things will change won't cut it, trying to figure out what is wrong with "him" and why he does the things he does, and waiting for an apology or explanation will keep you stuck in the sadness. "Do" something constructive for yourself today. Try one meeting and keep an open mind. If you go, thinking it's a waste of time, it probably will be. But if you just listen to others who have been through the same heartache and who are happy and at peace today...just may trigger a desire to get help for yourself.
I see what you're saying. I guess I don't identify with wanting to control him. I can't and I know that. I feel it's normal to wonder about these things of 'why?', etc. I think if I sat around all day, every day and obsessed over it, that could be a problem. But I have moments. I had a bad moment yesterday. I mean this just happened a few weeks ago.
I'm still trying to process it all. Is that not normal? I don't understand why this automatically has to mean I'm wanting to control things.
I mean I'm all about growing and getting better, so maybe I'm missing something. I don't know.
I def agree with you that I need to start doing and stop thinking and 'maybe-ing' so much. You're right about that. I guess when you deal with depression that part is hard. I've dealt with depression since I was young. Way before my ex. It just gets way worse when things like this happen.
Thank you Ann.
