Thom pom brings up a good point, there are lots of stages. There are more than he mentions, too. For your purposes it's best to take things one stage at a time.
About inpatient: I agree. Can't imagine doing chores and so many meetings so early. One of the ways I rewarded myself at home was to be lazy in every way except sobriety. I cut myself all the slack until I could think more clearly. It was actually indulgent in a way. The only thing in my life I was rigid about was no drinking, ever.
check out the thread "will I ever get it" for more on no drinking, ever.
