I appreciate the gist of Cyranoak's post which to me is a reminder to be in the moment, and when people show you "who they are" in this moment, believe them; which aligns with Sasha1972's point that it is in the actions not the words that people reveal themselves, and with Seren's point about how we can get hung up on "potential" which means we are not living in the real moment.
And I also believe it is important for F&F of A's to look at ourselves in the same clear-eyed way, what are we doing, where is our focus, how are we managing our own lives, struggles, dreams, problems? To me Cyr's post is about acceptance, once we get out of the denial/defense stance and accept that the person is an A whom we cannot cure, control, or change, then we have no choice but to look in the mirror and frame our choices differently.
Very very difficult stuff! Good to have a thought-provoking post that shifts perspective.
Peace,
B.