I am so sorry you are going through this. It is good you posted here again. My AH recently relapsed as well, lied about it, I guess it occurred on his 100th day of sobriety. It *is* a good thing your husband got to one year of sobriety. Wish I could give you a hug. (((((()))))))) I think you have to decide what your boundaries are, and communicate those to him, as far as what your plan is each time he drinks. Do you want him to remain at your home those nights? Around you or family at all?